11 Secrets to Ending Fights in Your Relationships

By: Renee Kirsten
 
Whether you like someone or not there are going to be times when you have disagreements with your friends, family, partners, spouse, co-workers, or neighbors. Here are some powerful tricks to make sure your relationships are healthy and balanced!
 
1. Bring Up Problems ASAP
Many people will try to walk on eggshells or avoid bringing up how they feel but this will actually cause a lot of extra stress and issues in your relationship.

When you don’t tell someone how their behavior made you feel it is actually a form of manipulation.  It is holding on to the power or energy instead of passing it back so that they can learn and grow.  If people don’t know how they are affecting you then they cannot fix it.

If you don’t catch it in the moment or it is not an appropriate time make sure you bring it up with them as soon as you can.  The quicker you address issues and resolve them the better everyone will feel.

Have a hard time catching problems in real time?  One trick is to trust your gut.  If someone says something that creates a strange feeling in your stomach that is a sign that something happened that affected you.

When I get that feeling I will make a point to stop the conversation and if they are a close friend or loved one they will typically help me figure it out.

Example- In a calm balanced tone I will say: “Just a min please, when you said that I felt funny.  I am not sure why but I would like to figure it out before we move on so I can understand what you mean.”

Remember that what you say and what people hear is always going to be different.  This is because our mood, focus and perceptions are always filtering information.  Tone and energy can also be a huge factor in how information is transferred between people.
When issues are brought up stay calm and try to see what really happened instead of getting defensive.  I will go more into this later.

2. Be the Real You

It is very common to act different with friends and loved ones than you do alone or in public.  Part of feeling whole and being true to ourselves it to try and make these versions us as consistent as possible.

Be the real you, do what you feel compelled to do.  Say what you are really feeling.  If you aren’t interested in what someone is saying either find a way to truly get interested or find a topic you are both interested it.

Pretending to listen and be interested isn’t being true to yourself and is harmful to the people around you.  Be honest, polite and genuine in your interactions.




3. Treat People the Way THEY want to be Treated

Thats right, because we are all different we cannot treat people the way we want to be treated.  We have to learn more about the people around us and treat them the way they want to be treated.

We can’t feed a room of people our favorite flavor of ice cream and expect them to be as happy and excited about it as we are.  We need to reach out and make sure the people around us know that we know them.  We prove that to them by really getting to know them!

There is a very powerful article written by a hero of mine that goes into this topic more.  Check it out here!



4. Look into their Eyes and Recognise that you are One

In the end we are all human, we all have flaws and we all have fear.  As long as all parties are still coming to the table we need to keep doing our best to work out our differences.


I remember once getting into a fight with my husband.  I was so mad at him I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to be ok with him again.  What flipped it around for me was when I looked deep into his eyes and saw that the reason why he had lied was because he was afraid of being alone.

I felt that same fear deep inside myself and realized that I did things that were sometimes crazy to avoid ending up alone too.  Though our crimes looked different we had the same core fear about loneliness.  How could I be mad at him without also being mad at myself.

Like they say “The things you hate most in the people around you are things you cannot stand about yourself.”  Even if the behavior is different on the outside often the mirror of life is showing us problems we have inside ourselves.

Sometimes we cannot do anything to change the past and the only thing we can do is earnestly move forward to make a better tomorrow.

That helped me forgive my husband and also work hard to make sure I treated him with love and respect.  In the end I saw myself in his eyes and I knew that what I needed for growth in my life was understand and love.  So I gave that to him freely and we both healed.

5. Listen
When people are speaking to us we need to listen.  We need to really hear what they are saying and try to see through their eyes about the situation.  We need to learn to put ourself on pause in order to really do this well.

Focus on the moment and take in as much data as you can.  If you have feelings of fear try to take a deep breath and feel what the other person is feeling.  Fear will cloud your ability to see what is really going on.

Listen and ask questions until you feel that you can see what the other person means.
When you are the one expressing yourself make sure when you are done that you “pass the energy back” by asking them to express what they are feeling about the topic.  Creating a healthy flow is key to a good healthy relationship.  Check out this video on the Grand MisConception to learn more about the flow of energy in a relationship!

6. Observe how the Person is Feeling rather than Always Asking

Sometimes it is fine to ask someone how they are feeling but sometimes people get scared and won’t say everything that is going on.  They don’t always do it on purpose.  Sometimes people get upset and they don’t remember what caused it.

That is why sometimes we need to be a bit of a detective to help them out.  Often the answers are all around us and we just need to use our senses to observe the environment to learn more.

Look around- Is the area messy?  Are there bad smells?  Did you forget to put away the laundry?  Clean up all of your vibrations and make sure that you pay attention to what could be straining the physical space.

Think back- Was there something said recently that would cause a misunderstanding?  Are there any important dates or big events that have happened or are coming soon?  Are you aware of any strained relationships or emotional patterns that could be causing problems?


If you see someone struggling to do something, it is often better to jump in and help rather than ask the person if they need help.  Such as opening a door or carrying in groceries.

Don’t Ignore people when they appear to need your help.  Sometimes we pretend to not notice because we aren’t feeling good, we are being lazy or are just plain busy.  Those are the times that we need to go out of our way to help the people around us.

If we don’t know what we should do we should ask them:

“Hey, I see that you are upset, I want to help but I am not sure exactly how.  I have thought of X, Y and Z but I wanted to check with you first to see if there is anything else that would really make a big difference.”

One of the most powerful things to recognise about the example above is that you took the time to recognise that the other person is hurting AND have already come up with a few ideas to help them out.  If they are hurting or upset don’t make them do all the work in coming up with a way to make it better.

The last biggest part of listening that is important is allowing people to fully feel the emotions they are feeling.  Especially in times of loss and grieving we have to resist the urge to change the subject, avoid talking about hard topics, or diffuse the situation.  It is ok to talk about the real issues.  It is healthy to explore fears about death and other culturally taboo topics.

7. Find out their Favorite Food/Treat

When vibrations are low and people aren’t happy sometimes a special treat or act of service is exactly what they need to reverse the downward spiral.  Pay attention to what people like to eat, drink or receive so that you can cheer them up.

This will show the person that you not only cared enough to know what they like but you noticed that they are feeling a little down.  You showed them that you care.

If you want to know more about this check out the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman to find out more about yourself and those you are close to.

8. Be Patient

Recognize that we are all human.  We all make mistakes.  If we want people to be patient with us when we mess up we must do the same for them.  No matter how smart or spiritual you are we all have bad days and make mistakes.  There is nothing wrong with this.

Part of being a loving being of light is allowing others to make mistakes and working with them on their personal growth.  Many of us are reprograming our minds to react in the best way possible in all situations.  There will be times when we are scared, tired or angry and we will make mistakes.

9. Breathe

When things get hard take a few deep breaths and see try to see the situation from the other person’s eyes.  Hearing that we messed up is almost always an uncomfortable feeling.  Often we immediately either deny that we did anything wrong or have a list of excuses as to why we acted that way.

We need to grow into responsible souls that take ownership of our own creations.  What that means is that if someone is offended or confused because of something we did then we need to take the appropriate steps to clarify, apologize and then fix the situation.

If we are unable to fix it then we need to be extra cautious in the future to avoid making the same mess.  That is how we will avoid loops of repeated problems in our relationships.

It is also our responsibility to create a safe space where people feel comfortable coming to us and expressing how they feel.

If people are taking the time and being brave enough to tell you what you did to hurt them then this is a message from the universe to look at ourselves and grow.  Thank the person for being brave enough to tell you how they felt about what you did.

10. Admit When you are Wrong
This takes a lot of guts but is also one of the biggest signs of a mature soul.  Tell people when you recognise that you created a situation or said something that caused them harm.

“I see that when I said that, it could have caused pain in you.  I am very sorry for doing that.  I am working on how I word things and making sure that I am respectful of you and your feelings.”  

You may also ask them for ideas that you can use in the future to handle that situation with them better.  People typically want to help you be nicer to them and will gladly give you ideas to improve how you interact with them.

11. Gratitude

Frequently tell the other person when you recognise them doing things for you or sacrificing for you.

“Hey, I saw that you missed your favorite TV show to make sure I came home to a clean house.  I really appreciate that.” 

“Thank you for telling me that, I know it can be scary to talk about feelings but I want you to know that I recognise the courage you just displayed.” 

“Thank you for listening to me while I figure this out.  What are your thoughts?”

“Thank you for suggesting we go to my favorite restaurant.  I really appreciate you caring about me and taking interest in what I like to eat. “

A little gratitude will go a long way with the people around you and encourage them to interact in a more healthy way with you aswell.  Leading by example is the best way to show others how you wish to be treated.

In life we all have things we can learn and become better at.  It takes practice and understanding.  Talk to the people you are close with and let them know that you are working on creating healthier relationships in your life.  Ask them to give you feedback and be patient as you learn to express how you really feel.




Source: http://thespiritscience.net/2014/09/26/11-secrets-to-ending-fights-in-your-relationships-2/

Goodbye Marcia

...funeral held today for television personality

By the Multimedia Desk 

Story Created: Jan 30, 2015 at 10:13 AM ECT

Story Updated: Jan 30, 2015 at 4:22 PM ECT 

The casket bearing the body of television personality

Marcia Henville being wheeled into the Holiness Revival

Ministries, corner Baden Powell and French Streets,

Woodbrook Port of Spain today.

 

We said goodbye to television journalist Marcia Henville today.
Her funeral took place at the Holiness Revival Ministries, corner Baden Powell and French Streets, Woodbrook Port of Spain.

Her body was interred at the Tunapuna Public Cemetery, Tunapuna.

Murdered: Marcia Henville

There will be a wake at the St. James Amphitheatre, Western main road, St. James from 7p.m.

Henville was killed at her home at Fidelis Heights, St Augustine soime time between last Frikday night and Saturday morning, when fire fighters responded to a report of a fire coming from her bedroom.

They found her burnt body. The pathologist discovered the following day that Henville had been stabbed Multiple times, her throat cut, and she had been beaten on the head.

Henville's two children, Chioke and Nikeiya, 16 who were also home at the time of the incident were not injured. A relative is a person of interest in the case. He is expected to be interviewed by police, after permission is given by doctors treating him for burns.

On January 10 last year, Henville told a Tunapuna Magistrate she had been assaulted, choked and punched by a close male relative.

The relative also threatened her, Henville said.Henville said over the past three years the relative had persistently used annoying and abusive language against her.

She gave the court two specific dates in the recent past when incidents of domestic violence occurred against her.The relative told the court it was Henville who occasionally slapped, scraped and assaulted him.
She used to threaten him, he said.

One week later both Henville and the close male relative withdrew the claims they filed against each other. Magistrate Halcyon Yorke-Young admonished them both to keep the peace.

Two days before Henville withdrew her domestic violence claim from the Tunapuna Magistrates' Court she went to the Port of Spain Magistrates' Court to lend support to her son Chioke.

On January 15 last year Chioke appeared before Port of Spain Magistrate Melvin Daniel on five charges including possession of a shotgun and eight rounds of ammunition.

Chioke was also charged with breaching a no entry sign, driving without a valid permit and driving without insurance. The offences against Chioke were alleged to have taken place on January 13 last year.

Henville was scheduled to file divorce papers on Monday.

Source: http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/Goodbye-Marcia-290321031.html

Woman Doused with Acid

By Susan Mohammed Story

Created: Sep 23, 2014 at 9:39 PM ECT

A FYZABAD mother was doused with acid on Monday hours after police intervened in a quarrel between her and a close male relative.

Linda Thomas, a mother of six, of New City Avenue, John Jules Trace, suffered burns to the eyes and mouth and is being treated at hospital.

Thomas’s son, Larry Thomas, 38, said he was told his mother has not been able to open her eyes since the incident and she was expected to be visi­ted by an eye specialist.

Larry Thomas said last month his mother and the male relative ended their relationship of some 40 years.

“They divided up the house and she went to live in the back and he in the front. He was always a high-tempered and quarrelsome person, but lately he started to get violent and fly off the handle.

“He started to mash things up and pelt things in the house, like the microwave and the blender,” said the son.

Thomas said on Monday he heard the man quarrelling with his mother and, minutes later, saw police officers in front of their home.

“I don’t know what the argument was about because I was across the road, but when I saw the police I came across to the house. The police warned him to behave himself, but he was still acting ‘hyper’. Eventually the police calmed him down and they left,” he said.

“After a while, I went to talk to him. I told him this stupidness has to stop because you lived with this woman for 40-something years and you cannot be acting like this. He said ‘yea’, but apparently he had something else in mind, like he was scheming already”, said Larry Thomas.

He said around 6.30 p.m. his mother was sitting on a chair in the living room when she was attacked.

“She was cleaning bhajee to cook, and her two grandchildren were close by. He came up the step and threw a container with the liquid at her face. The children started to bawl for help and he run down the step and gone.

“My sister and brother ran out and saw her (Linda) holding her face. They took her to the sink and tried to wash it off, but she said her skin was burning. They took her to the hospital,” he said. “Hours later I sat down on the chair where she was sitting and my neck started to burn like if it was on fire. So I could just imagine how she felt,” said the son.

Larry Thomas said he found a bottle labelled “muriatic acid” in the yard and he handed it over to the police.

A senior investigator said the bottle and contents will be taken to Forensic Science Centre, St James, for testing.

Police said up until yesterday evening, they were searching for the suspect.

WPC Vincent is investiga­ting.

 

Source: http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/Woman-doused-with-acid-276864791.html

5 Signs You’re in a Toxic or Draining Relationship

5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship

“Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
These are 5 signs that you are in a typical toxic relationship:

1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.

The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

2. Everything is about them and hardly ever about you. 

You have feelings, too, but the other person won’t always take time to hear them deeply. You’re unable to have a genuine two-sided conversation where your opinion is heard, considered and respected. Instead of acknowledging your feelings 100%, they find a way to turn it around and make it about themselves. It seems these people particularly value having the final say.

3.  You find yourself unable to fully enjoy good moments with this person.

Every day brings another challenge. It seems as though they are always raising gripes about you or someone around you. Their attempt to control your behavior is an attempt to control your happiness and sometimes ultimately to gain a deeper hold on your willpower.

4. You’re uncomfortable being yourself around that person.

You don’t feel free to speak your mind. You have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person. You realize you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and may even find yourself saying and doing things you don’t fully agree with just so you can not create issues with this person.

5. You’re not allowed to grow and change.

Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you may not be able to do things on your own or with success.
If you’re experiencing even just one of these signs, check in with yourself to see if the relationship is doing more damage than good. Evaluate the relationship and what it’s worth to you.
Embrace the answers that come from your intuition, as it wants the best for you—and this relationship might not be it.
Take deliberate action according to your gut feeling. You won’t be sorry.
Maybe you choose to talk about your feelings with the other person, or you decide to put more space between the two of you.
It’s important that if you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsettled in the relationship that you not wait around until the effects of the misery settle into depression. Taking any action is the best medicine.
Join our community!
- See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship

“Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
These are 5 signs that you are in a typical toxic relationship:

1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.

The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

2. Everything is about them and hardly ever about you. 

You have feelings, too, but the other person won’t always take time to hear them deeply. You’re unable to have a genuine two-sided conversation where your opinion is heard, considered and respected. Instead of acknowledging your feelings 100%, they find a way to turn it around and make it about themselves. It seems these people particularly value having the final say.

3.  You find yourself unable to fully enjoy good moments with this person.

Every day brings another challenge. It seems as though they are always raising gripes about you or someone around you. Their attempt to control your behavior is an attempt to control your happiness and sometimes ultimately to gain a deeper hold on your willpower.

4. You’re uncomfortable being yourself around that person.

You don’t feel free to speak your mind. You have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person. You realize you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and may even find yourself saying and doing things you don’t fully agree with just so you can not create issues with this person.

5. You’re not allowed to grow and change.

Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you may not be able to do things on your own or with success.
If you’re experiencing even just one of these signs, check in with yourself to see if the relationship is doing more damage than good. Evaluate the relationship and what it’s worth to you.
Embrace the answers that come from your intuition, as it wants the best for you—and this relationship might not be it.
Take deliberate action according to your gut feeling. You won’t be sorry.
Maybe you choose to talk about your feelings with the other person, or you decide to put more space between the two of you.
It’s important that if you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsettled in the relationship that you not wait around until the effects of the misery settle into depression. Taking any action is the best medicine.
Join our community!
- See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love

“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” ~Billy Wilder

I call these relationships toxic because our authentic self is withered away into someone or something else—forgetting all that was natural to you in the process.

Little do we know that our desire to be agreeable and accepted is inhibiting the natural process of growth.

While some difficult relationships can open our eyes to new perspectives and expand our awareness, some obviously shut us in and hinder our development. Our intuition will alert us one way or the other. It tells us, change and growth should feel good!

It’s important to know when you’re in a toxic relationship so you can choose something better for yourself.

When I was in my toxic relationships, I ignored my intuition in favor of my logical mind, which told me that losing that person was worse than having him/her around.

But our intuition knows best; unlike our mind, its only motive is our happiness.

5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship

“Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.

These are 5 signs that you are in a typical toxic relationship:

1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.

The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

2. Everything is about them and hardly ever about you. 

You have feelings, too, but the other person won’t always take time to hear them deeply. You’re unable to have a genuine two-sided conversation where your opinion is heard, considered and respected. Instead of acknowledging your feelings 100%, they find a way to turn it around and make it about themselves. It seems these people particularly value having the final say.

3.  You find yourself unable to fully enjoy good moments with this person.

Every day brings another challenge. It seems as though they are always raising gripes about you or someone around you. Their attempt to control your behavior is an attempt to control your happiness and sometimes ultimately to gain a deeper hold on your willpower.

4. You’re uncomfortable being yourself around that person.

You don’t feel free to speak your mind. You have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person. You realize you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and may even find yourself saying and doing things you don’t fully agree with just so you can not create issues with this person.

5. You’re not allowed to grow and change.

Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you may not be able to do things on your own or with success.

If you’re experiencing even just one of these signs, check in with yourself to see if the relationship is doing more damage than good. Evaluate the relationship and what it’s worth to you.

Embrace the answers that come from your intuition, as it wants the best for you—and this relationship might not be it.

Take deliberate action according to your gut feeling. You won’t be sorry.

Maybe you choose to talk about your feelings with the other person, or you decide to put more space between the two of you.

It’s important that if you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsettled in the relationship that you not wait around until the effects of the misery settle into depression. Taking any action is the best medicine.

Source: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/

th5 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship

“Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling. It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship. I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
These are 5 signs that you are in a typical toxic relationship:

1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.

The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging.

2. Everything is about them and hardly ever about you. 

You have feelings, too, but the other person won’t always take time to hear them deeply. You’re unable to have a genuine two-sided conversation where your opinion is heard, considered and respected. Instead of acknowledging your feelings 100%, they find a way to turn it around and make it about themselves. It seems these people particularly value having the final say.

3.  You find yourself unable to fully enjoy good moments with this person.

Every day brings another challenge. It seems as though they are always raising gripes about you or someone around you. Their attempt to control your behavior is an attempt to control your happiness and sometimes ultimately to gain a deeper hold on your willpower.

4. You’re uncomfortable being yourself around that person.

You don’t feel free to speak your mind. You have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person. You realize you don’t even recognize yourself anymore and may even find yourself saying and doing things you don’t fully agree with just so you can not create issues with this person.

5. You’re not allowed to grow and change.

Whenever you aim to grow and improve yourself, the other person responds with mockery and disbelief. There is no encouragement or support for your efforts. Instead, they keep you stuck in old judgments insisting that you may not be able to do things on your own or with success.
If you’re experiencing even just one of these signs, check in with yourself to see if the relationship is doing more damage than good. Evaluate the relationship and what it’s worth to you.
Embrace the answers that come from your intuition, as it wants the best for you—and this relationship might not be it.
Take deliberate action according to your gut feeling. You won’t be sorry.
Maybe you choose to talk about your feelings with the other person, or you decide to put more space between the two of you.
It’s important that if you’re feeling uncomfortable or unsettled in the relationship that you not wait around until the effects of the misery settle into depression. Taking any action is the best medicine.
Join our community!
- See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” ~Billy Wilder - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” ~Billy Wilder - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

Original concept By Yvette Bowlin edited by Kristopher Love - See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-or-draining-relationship/#sthash.iwDBB8D6.cSY1Q1Pt.dpuf

TRINIDAD & TOBAGO: Bishop Berkley: "We are losing our soul"

By Thenesa Grant-Caton
May 28, 2014

Anglican Bishop, the Right Reverend Claude Berkley says the unabated crime and violence and homicide in society is traumatizing the people of Trinidad and Tobago.

Speaking at a Eucharistic service at the St. Andrew’s Anglican Church in Scarborough to mark the opening of the 2014 Synod of the Anglican Church of the Dioceses of Trinidad and Tobago, Bishop Berkley stated that, “Our moral and ethics have become confused and there is unsettling uncertainty about what is right and what is wrong,”

“We are not in a good place, given our rich offering of human, physical and other resources,” said Bishop Berkley, who grew up in Pembroke.

He says that there are daily issues within the education sector regarding a shortage of teachers, buildings in disrepair or situations of indiscipline with students, parents and teachers.

Bishop Berkley highlighted the claims of corruption and stated that it continues at a fanatic pace as new matters are uncovered on a daily basis. He says that the assault on women and children continues as domestic violence and child abuse remains a worrying concern.

“We are losing our soul,” he said, stating that society needs to start over. “It seems as if we need a whole new generation of churchmen and women, teachers, public servants, parents, politicians and community workers.”

Bishop Berkley indicated that additionally there is great concern about institutional breakdown on several factors and the consequences and effects this has caused on good governance.

During his address to community members and the Tobago House of Assembly, he stated that a former high commissioner suggested that inequality pays a prominent part in fueling the surge of crime among us and the perceptions of an even distribution of goods and services argues to be an ease to the anxiety and apathy to the feelings of some people.

Bishop Berkley declared that it is evident everywhere that the price of confidence and trust plays out in the highest course of our national life. He says that the care for the poor, the homeless and other marginalised persons is yet to be clearly defined, and that there are “still too many sufferers on our streets, in our villages and towns which are occurring in the face of seven figure expenditures.”

He believes that strengthening our health care system and related services are urgent imperatives in improving the quality of life for all citizens, and that it would reduce pains and suffering.

Bishop Berkley posed numerous questions towards his congregation. He asked, “In spite of all the outrage, what reassurances have been given? Do we have a greater sense of preventative action to protect us or detective action that will bring the perpetrators to justice? What have we done differently since Dana’s murder and the murders of several young lives?”

The theme of the 2014 Synod of the Anglican Church of the Dioceses of Trinidad and Tobago, which finished on Saturday, was “Stewardship: Nurturing and Empowering Youth – Enabling the Present and Future.”

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