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The Dragonfly Centre is committed to the elimination of domestic violence against women and their children by providing victim friendly services that promotes the empowerment of survivors; through advocacy, public awareness and education and community based initiatives.

Vision: The Dragonfly Centre envisions a world free of violence against women and their children and social justice for all. We are founded on the vision and belief that every person has the right to live in a safe environment free from violence and the fear of violence and strive to work collaboratively with the community to provide victim friendly services to support domestic violence victims, survivors to the stage of thriving.

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Thursday, October 31, 2013

Examining Views on Domestic Violence CHRIS BROWN — FORGIVE AND FORGET?

Examining views on domestic violence
CHRIS BROWN — FORGIVE AND FORGET?
Published: Monday, October 29, 2012
Bobie-lee Dixon

 Left: Singer Rihanna who was beaten by Chris Brown when they were in a
 relationship says she has forgiven Brown. Right: Guyanese women’s rights
groups have been protesting against the upcoming visit of Chris Brown.
It seems no matter how hard Chris Brown tries to move on in life, his past continues to haunt him. The 23-year-old singer whose latest album, Fortune has sold 303,600 copies worldwide, is making headlines again. But this time, not for any run-ins with the law.
 
Because of Brown’s felony assault charges and conviction in the beating of singer and then girlfriend Rihanna in 2009, his visit to Guyana is being vehemently criticised by women rights groups in the country where he is expected to perform in December.
 
The singer/songwriter is billed to perform on Boxing night in the state’s capital, Georgetown and the Guyanese government has also come under fire as it is alleged they are partly responsible for financing the convicted domestic abuser's visit. According to reports, the Government, in a bid to promote tourism is spending a great deal of money on the singer whose criminal record forbids him to perform in countries like the UK.
 
The protesting groups have voiced their opinions on blogs, saying that allowing Brown to perform in the country sends the wrong message especially as the government does not finance existing programmes in the country geared towards fighting domestic violence and providing rehabilitation for ex-domestic abusers. 
 
Others recognise his ‘right’ to perform in Guyana but question the use of taxpayer’s dollars to support his performance and some activists have said his visit makes a mockery of an upcoming 16-day Activism Against Gender-based Violence campaign, especially since the concert coincides with the occasion.
 
However, fans who use the social networking site Twitter have taken to Brown’s fan page pledging their support to the singer, saying he deserves a second chance and he has already paid for his mistake. Brown was sentenced by a Los Angeles judge to probation of five years and community labour for six months for assaulting Rihanna. He was also ordered to stay away from his former for the next five years from the incident’s date. But Rihanna has since forgiven Brown and even confessed to TV show host Oprah Winfrey in a recent interview that he is the love of her life. 
 
The Barbadian songstress said she found the capacity to forgive Brown for the attack through finding the means to forgive her own father for the abuse he subjected her mother to. The two have even collaborated on a few songs including the popular Cake.
Recent reports that the couple are reuniting has prompted mixed reactions among fans of both celebrities.
 
There have been unconfirmed reports that Brown is also carded to visit Trinidad and Tobago before the year’s end. Are people in this country as concerned as those in Guyana about allowing him to perform here given his domestic violence conviction, or are they ready to forgive and forget?  The T&T Guardian took to the streets of Port-of Spain to get a view from the some younger members of the public. Stephen Andrews, Kristoff Alexander and Shakima Joseph all 20, and 16-year-old Celine Weeks were interviewed 
Three of them said that Brown has done his time for the crime he committed and has proven he has changed. They believe he deserves a second chance. However, Alexander who is not a Brown fan said because of the incident, Brown should not be celebrated in anyway. 
 
We also spoke with Gregory Sloane-Seale, former child rights activist with the Coalition Against Domestic Violence and co-ordinator of the Citizen Security Programme within the Ministry of National Security, as well as criminologist Renee Cummings. Sloane-Seale said it was not just about giving Brown a second chance. According to him, it is about watching what has transpired since the incident to date. He said from what he has read about Brown since the Rihanna incident, the performer seems to have shown remorse, attended the anger management sessions ordered by the court and continues to do his community service.  
 
“He is a young person, his presence can be a voice for hope and change among young people especially young men. You cannot condemn a person for life especially a young person for his infraction,” Sloane-Seale said. He added that it would have been wise for the Guyanese groups who are protesting to correspond with Brown’s management before his visit and organise for him speak about his experience and transformation during his visit to the country. “It is always sad for me when we throw the baby out with the bath water. No one is praising what he did but his actions were  already condemned, it was a moment that’s gone. We have to see how he goes on from here, support him and give him a chance to prove his change.”
 
Renee Cummings shared Sloane-Seale’s views. She said in domestic violence not all perpetrators have to continue being violent. She said the incident between Brown and Rihanna occurred at a time when they were very young, famous, rich and living on their own without guidance. For him to be continually labeled an abuser is wrong Cummings reasoned, as it only occurred once and he has since cleaned up his act. She said he has a criminal record because he was charged but the public has got to give him a chance to prove himself.
 
"In any relationship tempers flare — be it teenagers or adults and often we act out on the spur of the moment, realising after it could have been handled differently,” said Cummings."Yes he has a criminal record but does that mean the minute he lands in Guyana or Trinidad he is going to beat a woman," she rhetorically asked. Cummings said if they can organise to have him speak to young men about his experience and how it stigmatizes, that would be a bonus seeing that some of the activists' arguments are that the Government does not provide funding to sustain the domestic violence programmes needed to rehabilitate domestic abusers. "But to label the man an abuser out of the context of one incident which has not been repeated is definitely not the right or fair thing to do."
 
Local soca artistes also shared their views. Swappi said everybody has their own opinions about Brown but at the end of the day, apart from being an entertainer he is a human being. He said Brown has already been forgiven by the industry and has done his time.
His female counterpart Nadia Batson also felt people needed to get over what happened and allow Brown to grow positively. While she does not condone what happened, she feels Brown should not continue to be chastised for something he already paid for. 
"Because of what happened he is viewed as a woman beater, but this is not true. People make mistakes—no one is perfect. I just feel their are many other facets of Chris's life that can be focused on. People in this world are just too judgmental." she said.
 
Young singing sensation Erphaan Alves said Brown’s mistake will haunt him forever and that is just a fact he is going to have to learn to live with it. He said the only reason the issue keeps coming up is because of his role as an entertainer. "Everybody makes mistakes be it a president, mother, father or a plumber. When you are in the public’s eye it's just more difficult for you," said Alves. He continued: "He's is not the first artiste to have a criminal record and certainly won’t the first artiste to visit Trinidad with a record of any kind. Maybe the Guyanese government should have organized things better knowing the issues surrounding domestic violence in the country, but at the end of the day people cannot keep hating on Chris."
 
Megan Walrond, vocalist with the all-female band Sass said she understood the anguish of the women's rights groups in Guyana and that it is important for the Government to get financially involved in the rehabilitation of the perpetrators of domestic violence. But she also feels the people cannot make it a personal attack on Brown as he already served time for his actions. She said the word of God says we ought to forgive and that is what people need to do and move on because both Brown and Rihanna already have.
 
Trinidad and Tobago’s Immigration laws on people with convictions entering this country
 
According to Keith Sampson Deputy Chief Immigration Officer people with criminal records who attempt to enter Trinidad and Tobago may be refused entry under the provisions of sections 8(1)d or 8(1)q of Chapter 18:01— The Immigration Act of the Laws of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago. He said under both sections, the first (8(1)d) states that entry is prohibited to people who have been convicted of or admit having committed any crime, which if committed in Trinidad and Tobago would be punishable with imprisonment for one or more years. The latter (8(1)q) states any person who from information or advice which in the opinion of the Minister is reliable information or advice is likely to be an undesirable inhabitant of, or visitor to Trinidad and Tobago. 
 
 

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Face Domestic Violence Facts

Published: Monday, October 28, 2013
 
 Speaking at a gender seminar on Wednesday, Minister of Gender, Youth and Child Development Clifton De Coteau cited troubling statistics related to gender based violence in T&T. His lead figure was the prevalence of homicides resulting from incidents of domestic violence, which run second only to gang killings in the national tally of murder. In 2010, according to the Gender Minister, there were 940 reports of domestic violence 68.2 per cent of which were identified as assault by beating.

The incidence of rape, incest, grievous sexual assault and sex with minor females totalled 673, the majority being reports of rape and sex with underage girls. Gender-based violence, Mr De Coteau warned, “cuts across all cultures, races, religions and socio-economic levels with the majority of cases involving women and girls but which also affects men and boys.” The Gender Minister further noted that the data he was referencing didn’t describe the full extent of gender based violence and the prevalence of threats of such violence.

The information he shared provides a clear signal that the issues surrounding domestic and gender-based violence are both serious and pervasive enough to merit a national effort at mobilising solutions and building increased awareness.

Source: http://guardian.co.tt/editorial/2013-10-28/face-domestic-violence-facts

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Gender-Based Violence Figures Alarming, says De Coteau

Gender-based violence figures alarming, says De Coteau

By Michelle Loubon

INTERVENTIONS NEEDED: Clifton De Coteau
Clifton de Coteau, Minister of Gender, Youth and Child Development, says he was “alarmed” by statistics which revealed homicides, including a majority caused by gender-based violence, were second to gang-related murders
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He also said interventions, including adequate data collection, non-acceptance on the path of females and legislation, will work towards eradicating violence.

De Coteau made these comments at the restaurant, National Academy for the Performing Arts (NAPA) building, Keate Street, Port of Spain, yesterday during a seminar on Gender-based Violence hosted by the Gender Ministry, in collaboration with the Embassy of Chile and the United Nations. Gender-based violence was deemed any violence that is perpetuated against a person and has a negative effect, includng physical, social or cultural.

The evil scourge manifests itself in rape, domestic violence, trafficking of women and girls, prostitution, harassment, forced marriage, female genital mutilation and sexual assault of children.

Among those present were Raziah Ahmed, Minister in the Minstry of Gender, Youth and Child Development; Chilean Ambassador Fernando Ayala; United Nations Co-ordinator/T&T Richard Blewitt; Dr Yitades Gebre, PAHO/WHO representative; legal consultant on Gender Gaietry Pargass and Angeli Gajadhar, Hindu Women’s Organisation representative.
 
In his first assignment since his illness, De Coteau cited statistics from Crime and Problem Analysis. He said: “The homicide statistics are second only to gang murders. In 2010, there were 940 reports of domestic violence and 68.2 per cent for assault by beating. The high incidence of gang rape is indeed horrifying.
“There are 250 reports of rape, 32 reports of incest and 150 reports of grevious damage, 278 reports of sexual assault and sex with minors (females from 14 to 16).”
 
He added: “From January to August 2013, there were 266 reported cases of sexual offences against females and with one more (at Macqueripe) 267, 116 were charged with Seuxal Offences. We heard (Ayala, Blewitt) about ‘one in three women’ being a victim of violence.”

While these stats made it into the public domain, De Coteau and other speakers said “It is the tip of the iceberg since many cases go unreported for fear of being ‘re-victimised’.” 
 
Source: http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/Gender-based-violence-figures-alarming-says-De-Coteau-229033541.html

CJ praises Association of Women Judges

CJ praises Association of Women Judges

Chief Justice Ivor Archie says the newly-formed Trinidad and Tobago Association of Women Judges (TTAWJ) must be commended for advancing women’s issues including domestic violence and human trafficking. Having formed the local leg, it was working diligently towards establishing a Caribbean Association of Women Judges to ensure the rights of women and children were adhered to and equality for all citizens before the law by March 2014. Archie made these comments while delivering remarks at TTAWJ’s launch at Convocation Hall, Hall of Justice, Port of Spain, yesterday.
Among those present were President Anthony Carmona, Justice Charmaine Pemberton, Magistrate Lisa Ramsumair-Hinds, Justice Carla Brown-Antoine, Kerri-Ann Oliverie, Assistant Registrar of the Supreme Court and Justice Allyson Ramkerrysingh. They were joined by Justice Maureen Rajnauth-Lee who spoke on “The TTAWJ-The Genesis” and Justice Joan Charles who spoke on “The Judge and Public Service.” Sharing in the TTAWJ’s milestone were Suriname’s Justice Carlotta Korona, Dominica’s Chief Magistrate Evelyn Baptiste and Sir Dennis Byron, President of the Caribbean Court of Justice.
Archie said: “Three countries are in the top in the Caribbean for reported issues for rape. One in three women in the Caribbean will experience domestic violence. We need men and women who are committed to making a social difference with issues. TTAWJ’s mandate is totally in sync with initiatives like gender, ethnicity, child abuse and trafficking. Issues that concern women and children have been brought forward. It is up to judges to play an important part in national development.”
Archie added: “Investing in women is “smart economics. The rule of law contributes to a being a fundamental pillar upon which female judges can play a critical function. “
Zeroing on the issue of “sextortion”, Rajnauth-Lee said: “In Zambia and Malawi there was a lot of violence against women and girls. Bosnia-Herzegovina, Philippines and Tanzania were raising awareness on sextortion (a form of exploitation and corruption which occurs when people in positions of authority, namely public officials whether educators, judges, government officials or law enforcement personnel seek to extort sexual favours in exchange for something within their power to grant or withhold. TTAWJ was concerned with issues of rape, incest, domestic violence and sex trafficking.”
Charles lauded Carmona for pioneering the Bayley Boys’ Project to help young offenders. She said TTAWJ was bent on providing public service and “arresting the demise of the dispossessed, abused, neglected and disheartened in the communities”.
She said: “Magistrates and family court judges see firsthand the damaging and deleterious effects of breakdown in the family and home. TTAWJ’s challenge is to enter the domain and effect change to our social environment such as our offices will allow.” Meanwhile, as TTAWJ moves towards the Caribbean Association of Women Judges (CAWJ), a steering committee was set up in Jamaica, Guyana, Barbados and the Eastern Caribbean.
—Michelle Loubon 
 
Source: http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/CJ-praises-Association-of-Women-Judges-229033581.html

Friday, October 18, 2013

BRIEF LIFE OF ABUSE

BRIEF LIFE OF ABUSE
By CECILY ASSON Wednesday, October 16 2013
A 34-YEAR-OLD heavy equipment operator yesterday confessed to police that he killed two-month-old Andre Mowlah at his (the baby) home in Erin Road, Cap-de-Ville on Sunday morning.
The man not only confessed to the murder but detailed to police how Andre suffered two months of torture at his hands. The man told shocked officers on four different occasions he had thrown the baby on the ground with the last time being the one which ended baby Andre’s brief yet tortured life.

On Sunday at about 8 am, the baby’s mother Diana Ramsaroop was involved in a heated argument with the man when in a fit of rage, he grabbed baby Andre from inside a crib where he was asleep, raised him high overhead and dashed the child to the floor.

A tearful Ramsaroop would later tell Newsday her baby son did not even cry out from the blow which shattered the back of his tiny skull and caused fatal injuries to his brain. The baby was rushed to the Point Fortin District Hospital where he was pronounced dead on arrival.

On noticing the injuries, doctors immediately alerted the police. The man, according to reports, at first claimed baby Andre slipped from his grasp as he (the suspect) held him. He later claimed that while holding the baby, his (the suspect) foot went through a rotted flooring board and he let go of the child who fell and hit his head on the floor.

However an autopsy report stated that the extensive cranial damage could not have been caused by a mere fall but was caused by a willful act of forcefully slamming baby Andre to the floor.

Police sources told Newsday yesterday at the Point Fortin Police Station, in an interview room, the man gave investigators an oral confession saying he was provoked into murdering the two-month-old after being accused of stealing tools from a house which is under repairs.

The man was told this was not the first time that baby Andre was thrown to the ground. Police sources told Newsday the man told investigators that earlier this month, during a heated argument with Ramsaroop, he stopped a truck which he was driving and took baby Andre and threw the child into some bushes at the side of the road. The man admitted to police that he often took out his rage on baby Andre. He then outlined two other occasions when in a rage, he had thrown baby Andre to the ground, as if he was a rag doll.

Speaking to Newsday yesterday, Andre’s grieving mother disclosed that after the man threw her son into the bushes, she told him she would report him to police. Both Ramsaroop (holding baby Andre) and the man went to the Cap-de-Ville Police Post where she sought an officer’s assistance.

“A policeman told me there was no one who could help me and that I had to go to the Point Fortin Police Station because there was an officer at that station who dealt with domestic violence issues and that person was there right now,” Ramsaroop told Newsday.

Ramsaroop said she and the man later met a relative in Point Fortin who warned the man that he could go to jail if he continued to abuse baby Andre. “Right there and then he promised he would never do it again so I did not bother to go to the Point Fortin Police Station.

“Looking back on that incident now, perhaps if that officer at Cap-de-Ville Police Post had taken my plea for help seriously, my son would be alive today. Who knows,” Ramsaroop said.

Told about the officer’s conduct in dealing with Ramsaroop at the Cap-de-Ville Police Post, a senior officer in South Western Division knocked the officer at the station for turning away Ramsaroop.

“That officer was wrong to send her away in the company of a man who had not only thrown a baby to the ground but also confessed to committing the very act. That man should have been charged one time. That baby might be alive today if that officer acted differently...acted in the manner he was supposed to,” the senior officer said as he promised an investigation.

Ramsaroop yesterday said she has not slept since her son’s murder.

“Only God knows why Andre came into this world for such a short time and why he had to suffer so badly in his two months of life,” she cried. Ramsaroop said whenever she closes her eyes to sleep she gets nightmares, as the memory of her son being dashed to the ground keeps replaying in her mind. “I am haunted by visions of my son’s death. He was killed before my eyes. I can’t sleep. I haven’t slept since Sunday,” she said.

Yesterday social workers from the National Family Services Unit of the Gender, Youth and Child Development Ministry visited and counselled Ramsaroop, who gave birth to Andre, 18 years after the birth of her first child, from another relationship.

“I was a teenager when I had my first child. Back then not everything was in place. But this time around, I was better prepared when I had Andre. Everything was in place. Baby Andre had everything.”

Investigators are expected to record further statements from witnesses following which the file will be sent to the Office of the Director of Public Prosecution (DPP) for directions on how to proceed in terms of charges. Baby Andre will be laid to rest today at the Cap-de-Ville Public Cemetery following a funeral service at 2 pm. Sgt Solomon is continuing investigations.

Source: http://www.newsday.co.tt/news/0,185101.html

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

TWO-Month-Old Baby was Killed

Baby’s skull was fractured

Male relative, 34, detained in child’s death

By Susan Mohammed susan.mohammed@trinidadexpress.com

A TWO-month-old baby was killed on Sunday after he was thrown on the ground by a close male relative in a fit of rage. 

Baby Andre Feroze Mowlah, of Erin Road, Cap-de-Ville, died of blunt force trauma after he suffered multiple fractures to the skull, and a severe contusion to the brain, an autopsy found yesterday. 

Pathologist Dr Valerie Alexandrov told the Express: “The baby had no chance of survival. Babies of this age do not usually suffer such severe trauma. In this particular situation the baby’s left side of his skull was crushed. He was thrown with a great amount of force. He also sustained a cracked rib.” 

A 34-year-old truck driver was detained by police for questioning.  

The incident was witnessed by the baby’s mother, Diana Ramsaroop, 35, who said it was not the first time the child was “slammed to the ground”. 

Ramsaroop, a security guard, said: “He (the close male relative) throw down the child on the ground before. He used to say he sorry. But you cannot be sorry and do it more than once.”  

The mother said: “He (the male relative) is a nice person, but when he get vex he does trip. Another time he was vex and he threw a heater (iron) on the ground and mash it up. 

“Before the baby was born he used to walk away when he was vex. So I don’t know why he didn’t do that.”

Ramsaroop, who also has an 18-year-old daughter, said the incident occurred shortly after 8 a.m. She said that she was outside the house, which is under renovation, putting away tools. Baby Andre was asleep in a crib inside. 

She said an argument broke out between her and the male relative. 

“I was telling him about the tools, that some were missing. He got hyper. He said he was going out. He picked up the child and I don’t know where he went. He came back about ten minutes later. He started to quarrel again and then threw down the baby on the floor. The baby was asleep. He did not even cry,” said Ramsaroop. 

The mother said the male relative picked up the child and placed him on a bed. She said she tried to get closer to the child but the relative blocked her path. 

“He said he going to kill me. I said ‘go ahead’ and he pushed me. He picked up the baby and he realised that the baby was gasping for air,” she said. 

Ramsaroop said the male relative called her sister, Jaime Ramsaroop, who came to the house in her car.

The mother said by that time the child’s head had swollen, but there was no visible bleeding. 

Ramsaroop said her sister cried and begged the man to take the child for medical treatment, and eventually he agreed. The three took the child to the Point Fortin Area Hospital. 

The mother said doctors and nurses questioned the male relative about the child’s injury. “He told them that the baby slipped from his hand and fell, and a piece of wood fell on him. I didn’t say anything”, she said. 

The mother said around 9 a.m. doctors told her that the baby had died. 

Police officers of the Point Fortin CID and Homicide Division (South) took the mother, aunt and male relative to the Point Fortin Police Station where they were questioned. 

The male relative remained in police custody while the mother and aunt were allowed to leave the police station. 

Acting Sergeant Solomon is investigating. 

Friday, October 4, 2013

‘Why don’t you just leave?’: A domestic violence survivor responds

Posted Oct. 03, 2013, at 1:01 p.m.
 
As an advocate for domestic violence, one of my biggest pet peeves is when people say, “Why don’t they just leave?” The more thoughtful questioner doesn’t blame the victim and tries to truly understand. They ask: What are the reasons that make it difficult to leave?

I am not just an advocate but a survivor of domestic violence. My ex-husband could have written the book on abuse. Prior to meeting him, I was a strong person. I made my own choices and was fearless.

However, shortly after he moved in, my whole being, my whole life, changed. We were together for three years before I eventually left. What’s important to know is that in those three years I tried to leave one time — before I actually left.

One time was all it took to teach me that my life was on the line if I left him.

The night started out as usual. He began drinking and started becoming filled with rage. He accused me of cheating on him. It was really more like interrogation. He repeated the same questions over and over.

I gave the same answer that I had not cheated on him. And with each admission that I had done no wrong came violence. His hands were strong. He would grab my hands and squeeze them until I felt like he broke my fingers.

He would ask again; I would deny; and then he grabbed my hair. Twisted it around his hand and pulled me to the floor and put his knee in the middle of my back.

He asked again if I had cheated, and I said no again. He pulled me to the bed by my hair and lifted me onto the bed. He asked me again the same questions, and again I denied what he said.

This time he had a knife, which I didn’t realize he had hidden in his arm sleeve, and he traced my face with the blade. Full of fear and full of tears, I assured him I would tell him the truth if he would just let me go to the bathroom and wash my face. I told him I just wanted to be calm.

For all the screaming and crying, all I knew was I needed to leave, or he would eventually kill me. Surprisingly, he let me get up to go to the bathroom. As I was heading to the bathroom, I ran. I ran for the door. But he was right behind me with his knife and sliced my hand open and stabbed me in my forearm. Blood was everywhere.

Even though I had never cheated on him, I told him I did, so he would stop. I couldn’t go to the hospital. I couldn’t call the police. I couldn’t do anything. Except tell him what he wanted to hear.

What he told me then I will never forget to this day: “This is your fault. If you had just told me the truth to begin with, this wouldn’t have happened. If you lie to me again, if you try to leave again when I’m talking to you, I will kill you.”

Although this was the first time I tried to leave, it was not the last time he abused me. His abuse was physical, emotional, sexual and financial. He even put a knife to my mother and told her, “She will never leave me.” He put a fear in me that I have never known in my entire life. His message was clear, and he acted upon it to prove that he would end my life if I left him.

Eventually I did leave. In October 2008, while he was in prison, his sister encouraged me to “leave now because this is your only chance.” It was the first choice I made for myself in three years.

Leaving was not easy. Every day for about two years I waited for him to come. I was in constant fear that he would kidnap my children to lure me back. I was always looking over my shoulder and convinced he would kill me. It is now five years later, and I don’t feel unsafe any more.

My hope for people reading this is to think the next time they wonder why someone doesn’t leave. It’s not simple. Leaving doesn’t end the fear or stop abusers. The reality is people who live within the walls of abuse do stay. And while it doesn’t make sense to a lot of people, it makes sense to me.

Billie-Jean Niedorowski is an advocate at Spruce Run-Womancare Alliance in Bangor. This is the first in a series of OpEds about domestic violence that will appear during October, which is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.